It seems the new “tradition” for weddings is for the bride and groom to do a “first look” before their ceremony. This is when the bride and groom set time aside before their ceremony to privately see each other for the first time. I totally understand why some brides are sticking to the original tradition and I completely respect that. They still want to have that moment of seeing each other for the first time as the bride walks down the isle. As for me, doing a first look has been winning my heart and I’ll share why.
1. To see each other for the first time, alone. Doing a first look is great because you get to have that special moment of seeing each other for the first time alone and not with hundreds of people watching you (most likely it will just be me ;). And when doing a first look, as opposed to walking down the isle, you get to hug and kiss each other and talk after seeing each other for the first time. Whereas when you walk down the isle, you probably don’t even say anything to each other let alone touch, and then the ceremony begins. It is such a special and electric moment to have alone! I have to keep from crying every time. And most brides and grooms separate after the first look and have some time apart before the ceremony, so that anticipation and excitement builds up again for when you’re about to walk down the isle. It’s going to be dramatic whether you’ve seen each other or not!
2. Calms nerves If you’re really struggling with the anxiety and nervousness of it all, it’s a great time to see and talk to each other and have some time together to calm down and release some of that pressure. I’ve had couples quietly read their vows to each other before the ceremony and it was such a precious moment they got to share with each other! It definitely helps to alleviate any stress and extra anxiety that may be stirring. I know Michael is my rock and being with him calms me down in an instant so I can imagine that most couples feel this way when they see each other.
3. Option to do bridal party and/or family portraits before ceremony For me, the photographer, this is a great reason. Now that you’ve seen each other, you can knock out as many formal pictures as you can before the ceremony begins so you can head to cocktail hour as soon as possible. If you plan enough time with your coordinator and photographer, you can easily get all of the bridal party and immediate family pictures taken care of before the ceremony. Then after the ceremony, all that will be left is the extended family pictures and the pictures of just the bride and groom.
4. Amazing photographs All the couples I know that have done a first look come away with some amazing images because it’s an amazing moment. There’s so way to hide the fact that you’re both so excited to see each other and in love! It would be very difficult not to have great first look photos. It’s a wonderful thing to be able to have the moment captured in addition to seeing each other walk down the isle. And even though the moment is just between the two of you, you’ll then have images from that moment to share with all your friends and family.
I hope that helps. In an upcoming post, I’ll share tips on how to make the most of your first look, should you decide to do one. Also be on the lookout for Kelly + Jordan’s wedding post soon!